Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Sometimes all it takes

Sometimes it's the silence that hurts the most. When you're all alone with your thoughts. Thoughts that can take you to a deep place of loneliness. Feeling isolated. When the phone calls stop, the letters no longer come, and the "how are yous?" fade away, all that's left are the memories. The sorrow that comes with all those thoughts of "what ifs?"

Everybody forgets. I wonder if she ever crosses their minds. If I ever cross their minds...or maybe they think it doesn't matter anymore. Maybe they think since it's been almost eight months, I must be over it by now. After all, they see me smiling and laughing.

Yes, life goes on for us all. And how easy it is to get so caught up in our own hectic schedules of kids, husbands, boyfriends, classes, work, friends...whatever it is that keeps us from remembering other's sorrows. Others that can't forget the pain they live with each day. Whether they are going through a divorce, grieving the loss of a parent, or saying goodbye to an infant child. So many hurts come with this fallen world.

Real life happens. But we never forget our pain. Sometimes a simple "how are you holding up?" is all it takes to show someone you haven't forgotten their pain either. It just may make the silence in their life less lonely.



  1. Silence is the worst and so very hard. ((((HUGS)))) Thinking of you.

  2. Love you, I am always here for you.

  3. It is really hard for me to know what to say. What if I say something that makes you cry? I know that with what little tiny "loss" that I've experienced (no comparison at all) that the silence feels overbearing. Sitting and waiting for someone to say something, anything at all. But Jesus is in the silence. And when I cry, I know he comes and holds me. I know we haven't ever really talked about her, but I haven't forgotten. And every time I see you, my heart breaks for you. I cannot imagine the struggle you must face every day. I don't even know how you manage a smile. But you DO smile, and it is beautiful and unexplainable. Sure, all things work together for good...and she's part of those things. But it doesn't make anything any easier, it doesn't make heartache any more bearable, or the flesh miss her any less. All it gives us is a happy ending to a sad movie. Maybe you don't feel that way...I really hope you don't. But I cannot even begin to tell you how proud I am of you for making it eight months. You'll make it the rest of the way through this movie, with Jesus at your side and some comic relief hopefully. And then you'll get your happy ending. And it'll all make sense, and it'll all be worth it.
    Does that offend you, make you wanna cry, or make you want to drop kick me? Because I don't know anything about what you're going through or where you've been. But that's just what came to my mind. And I wanted you to know I've really thought about it, prayed for you, and that I haven't forgotten. So if I sound like I don't get it...then forgive me, please. I know I don't get it.


  4. The one experiencing the pain surely never forgets. I hope that no one forgets her.


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